Books for Adults

All Alone in the World: Children of the Incarcerated – Nell Bernstein

In this "moving condemnation of the U.S. penal system and its effect on families" (Parents’ Press), award-winning journalist Nell Bernstein takes an intimate look at parents and children—over two million of them—torn apart by our current incarceration policy. Described as "meticulously reported and sensitively written" by Salon, the book is "brimming with compelling case studies … and recommendations for change" (Orlando Sentinel); Our Weekly Los Angeles calls it "a must-read for lawmakers as well as for lawbreakers."

Help for Kids! Understanding Your Feelings About Having a Parent in Prison – Carole Gesme

An activity workbook that explores the many mixed-up feelings that accompany the absence of a parent due to incarceration. It teaches peer pressure responses, provides tools for problem-solving, and helps students accept their feelings.

Life on the Outside: The Prison Odyssey of Elaine Bartlett - Jennifer Gonnerman

Life on the Outside tells the story of Elaine Bartlett, who spent sixteen years in Bedford Hills prison for selling cocaine--a first offense--under New York’s Rockefeller drug laws. The book opens on the morning of January 26, 2000, when Bartlett is set free and returns to New York City. At 42, she has virtually nothing: no money, no job, no real home. All she does have is a large and troubled family, including four children, who live in a decrepit housing project on the Lower East Side. “I left one prison to come home to another,” Elaine says. Over the next months, she clashes with her daughters, hunts for a job, visits her son and husband in prison, negotiates the rules of parole, and campaigns for the repeal of the laws that led to her long prison term. Russell Simmons, founder of Def Jam Records, says: “At a time when the prison-industrial complex is destroying African American families and neighborhoods, Elaine Bartlett is more than a survivor: she is a heroine. The future of our communities depends on women like her.”

A Parent’s Message: An Interactive Program Supporting Parent-Child Bond - The Messages Project

This interactive text will act as a guide through the reunification process, and it includes worksheets that both kids and parents can complete to establish and maintain a healthy bond. www.themessagesproject.org

Parenting From A Distance: Your Rights and Responsibilities - Jan Walker

A parenting text for incarcerated parents who are committed to remaining involved with their children and willing to accept the responsibilities associated with parenting from a distance.

Parenting From Prison: A Hands-on Guide for Incarcerated Parents - James Birney

Parenting From Prison is a hands-on, practical guide that walks an incarcerated parent through the preparation and process of becoming a vital, positive, encouraging parent to their child. The book discusses A Child’s Development Needs, Preparing to Parent From Prison, What a Child Asks, Visiting with Your Child and contains a sample parenting plan and activities that will help you to maintain a closer connection to their child.

As an incarcerated parent, you can have a strong relationship with your child, despite the challenges you both may face. Parenting From Prison shows you how to provide your child with the love, emotional support, and encouragement that are of critical importance to them. It will also bring you a renewed sense of hope and strength.

What Will Happen To Me? - H. Zehr and L. Stutzman Amstutz

What is life like for a child who has a parent in prison? This book, by two nationally recognized experts in the practice of restorative justice, brings together 30 portraits of children whose parents are incarcerated, along with their thoughts and reflections, in their own words. What is life like for a child who has a parent in prison? This book brings together photographic portraits of 30 children whose parents are incarcerated, along with their thoughts and reflections, in their own words. As Taylor says, “I want other kids to know that, even though your parents are locked up, they’re not bad people. “And I want them to know that we’ll get through it. As long as we have someone there to help us, we can get through it. It makes you stronger.” The material in “What Will Happen to Me?” has been gathered and written by two nationally-recognized experts. Howard Zehr is known around the world as the “grandfather of restorative justice.” He lectures and consults internationally on that topic and related issues. He is currently a member of the Victims Advisory Group of the U.S. Sentencing Commission. Lorraine Stutzman Amstutz travels the U.S. doing mediation work in severe crime cases. She provides consulting and training for agencies and communities seeking to implement programs of restorative justice. This book of portraits and text includes: Reflections of several grandparents who are unexpectedly parenting children whose parents are incarcerated. “Ten Questions Often Asked by Children.” “Dealing with Emotions”—including grief and loss, shame and stigma, anger and isolation. Resources for “Staying in Touch,” “Finding Moments of Celebration,” “Adjusting to a Parent’s Return,” “Self-Care for Family Caregivers,” and “Suggestions for Third-Party Caregivers.” “The Children’s Bill of Rights,” along with thoughtful consideration about how to apply restorative justice and respect for relationships in these difficult situations.

When a Parent Goes to Jail: A Comprehensive Guide for Counseling Children of Incarcerated Parents - Rebecca M. Yaffee and Lonnie F. Hoade

A comprehensive guide for counseling children of incarcerated parents. To many, the situation seems hopeless, but according to professional counselors Lonnie F. Hoade and Rebecca M. Yaffe, there is a way to turn the tide of such depressing statistics. Their new book, When a Parent Goes to Jail, is a professional resource to help children of incarcerated parents cope with the traumas they face -- physical, emotional, and social stigmas and feelings of guilt, anger, fear and shame -- and guide them in making wiser life choices than their parents did. When a Parent Goes to Jail is a comprehensive book that takes a preventive approach when dealing with the symptoms of children under stress and is ideal for use individually or in small groups. (Ages 10-14)


We’re always looking for books about children with incarcerated parents. If you come across any, let us know!